What the good guys are looking for in a woman. Part VI

1. A sincere relationship with God
2. Modest
3. Kind
4. Sense of humor
5. Courageous

6. Trustworthy

Trust is something that simply isn’t sought as a prerequisite for a relationship; and as a result, breaches of trust have littered our country with failed relationships and failed marriages. True, you are putting your trust into a fallible human being, but you also have the perfectly reasonable expectation that the person you have trusted will not behave with little regard for your feelings. I have noticed that girls, whether in church or out, trade relationships with guys, very much like they are swapping used cars. (Note to good guys who may be reading this: If a girl, to whom you have formed an attachment, demonstrates a willingness to spend time around a lesser man, for whatever her reason; my advice to you is to let her marry the lesser man. Trust me, you don’t need to know how the hot dog is made; just enjoy the hot dog.*)

A good guy is looking for someone he can trust with everything. This is what many today mess up. Either, they do not allow enough time for someone to prove themselves trust worthy, or they continue to carry on a relationship with someone who hasn’t proven themselves to be worthy of trust. Let’s tackle the first one. The Bible says, “to whom much is given, much will be required.” To start with, let that be your guide in trusting someone. Trust is something that is built over time.With the passage of time, you will see that what is important to you becomes something that is important to them. Trustworthiness is something that is proven over and over again. If trust is breeched in little things, you can certainly expect that it will be breeched with greater things. Good guys are interested in girls who demonstrate that they care about the responsibility of being trustworthy.

If you continue to carry on a relationship with someone who has proven themselves to be a person who can not be trusted, you are not just wasting time, you are throwing your life away. You may be pitied by good guys, but that is all of the interaction you will have with them. This is going to be exceedingly ugly, but I am going to say it: When you swear allegiance with a devil, you have embarked on the path to destruction; and you erase any hope of having anyone descent in your life. If you accept that kind of behavior, it is much more than likely that you will exhibit that same behavior. Be someone who can be trusted, and surround yourself with people who can be trusted.

7. Willing to be alone

* The Truth About Hot Dogs